Another year is nearly over. How has that happened?! I'm going to do a bit more of a looking back type post in a few days so that's enough of the new year stuff for now.
Firstly, a counselling update: Obviously I haven't seen Nicola for a couple of weeks with it being Christmas, but I am constantly trying to keep up with my thought processes and techniques and everything that she manages to cram in to our little sessions. For a while now, she has had me trying to do what she calls "worry time". It sounds a bit lame I know, but the concept of it is fantastic. I am supposed to take 10 or 15 minutes each day to look back over what has worried me or panicked me; it can be anything from crying over my indecisiveness, fretting about messing up at work, letting someone down in some bizarre way my brain thinks of, to the more serious things of sinking back into a dark hole of depression where the real demons lurk. I have to consider all these things and write them down so that she can look through them and try to find patterns that may reveal the underlying cause of my sometimes crippling anxiety. I have found it more difficult than I originally thought and I can't fully say why. Sometimes I think I am embarrassed of my silly anxieties and sometimes I don't really want to face up to them and writing them down means I am putting it out there; revealing a little bit more of my screwed up self to another human being; scary stuff for something with such a cutesy little name... Another thing that Nicola has started me working on is mindfullness. Again, it sounds a bit simple and hippified; be more mindful blah blah blah. But then she gave me sheets and explained it more and it really struck a chord with me. The concept of mindfullness is being in the here and now; fully appreciating the moment that is the present. It can be the smallest of things like watching the swirly patterns milk makes when you pour it into your daily cuppa or something much larger like appreciating the love in a room filled with family, it doesn't matter what it is, just that you are in the moment with it. I never really realised how little time I spend in the present and why that is. Nicola explained it with the use of a simple diagram and wise words. Anxiety lives in the future; you are constantly fretting about things that have not yet happened, predicting negative outcomes and catastrophesising (if that's the word). Then anxiety's evil friend, depression, he resides in the past, dwelling on negative things and dark feelings, sucking you back into a void it can seem impossible to escape. When suffering from these devils like I do, you spend so much of your time wrapped in the past or the future that you more often than not, forget the here and now. You are on autopilot, completely oblivious to your life at that moment and all to aware of what has happened or what may happen and that is just no good. Now, being aware of these things is only the first tiny step, it is so easy for me to sit writing this all down now but give it half an hour and without realising it I will be back in all my negative thoughts somewhere in the past or the future and before I know it, the day is gone and I won't get it back. So these are the main things I am to focus on at the moment, locating my worries and taking at least a minute out of my day to be in the moment. Baby steps Becca, baby steps. I have to remind myself that there is no quick fix for mental illness, it is a long, slow battle with myself and all I can hope for is that I can shuffle slowly forward without falling much further back.
And so I shall leave you with the picture we found of Granny and Grandad back in the day. I hope you have all had a lovely festive time surrounded by those you love.
Becca.
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